Friday, May 28, 2010

Ups and Downs but Turning Around!

Mom Update:

Thursday, May 27th ~ Dad, myself, John, and Holli all visited with Mom at the evening visitation time. As there can only be 2 visitors at a time we rotated in and out. Mom was quieter at first but then perked up, walking about some, smiling, conversing, and girl-talking and laughing with Holli and I. It was a good visit.
Dad sincerely pressed the issue with Mom that he wanted her to come home for her care, that he (and we all) miss her, and that she's missing out on life with our family and just generally being outside of the hospital atmosphere.

My thoughts on Mom:
I think that Mom feels comforted and like she's a 'safe zone' in the hospital with around-the-clock care. She's so deeply frustrated, fearful, and just saddened of these changes in herself over the last years that she is holding on to the hope that if she is in the hospital that someone is going to Fix her, cure her, heal her. She knows that at home in and in normal life that people don't just generally cater and constantly check on someone with them being their main focus like there is with nursing care. So this thinking and need, if you will, cripples her emotionally and brings her down hill mentally which then seems to manifest itself physically.

Dad is willing to be a nurse to her which is a lot for men to do, especially men who are nearing 70 years old. But Mom has shown that even if she appears completely normal with speaking, actions, and activities that she really isn't 100% okay and just isn't able to be alone and on her own. What might be a few minutes in actuality may seem like hours to her of being alone, causing panic, disorientation, and just bring on many problems like feeling the need to call 911 when there is nothing wrong in reality.

I need to get off here and finish later because a stong thunderstorm is coming through and blinking things around the house! Until then..